tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33615081.post7664990934119786001..comments2022-12-21T12:03:20.392+00:00Comments on The Wife of a Schizophrenic: Under PressureMr Mans Wifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02794499533315461733noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33615081.post-84894332602370393302008-01-27T20:18:00.000+00:002008-01-27T20:18:00.000+00:00mr mans wife,I understand how you feel about peopl...mr mans wife,<BR/><BR/>I understand how you feel about people not understanding what its like. To keep asking the questions even though the answer is always the same.<BR/><BR/>When ever my family would come to visit the always wanted my husband to go out to eat with them. He never wanted to, I never felt comfortable around other people, I never understood why until now. I always hated it when I would be questioned as to why he never went or when I went to visit why he didn't join me. <BR/><BR/>Its hard for people who do have our experience to understand. Thats why I think its so important to be involved with others who are experiencing this. Sometimes when someone shares with me their experience and I will try it out it works and sometimes it doesn't work for my situation. <BR/><BR/>This is why I am so grateful to have the sz website and the blogs, I know that I am not the only one and there are so many that understand and it helps me to just be in acceptance of the ones that never will. Some times I would just say thank you very much for the invitation but we have already discussed this and I no longer want to discuss it. If things ever change I will let you know. If they insist on talking about it, I just say that I love them but I need to go. Its hard at first but eventually they stop asking the questions and I save myself pain in the long run.Stephanie Yateshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17322195085742011695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33615081.post-65331917695953089942007-07-21T22:23:00.000+00:002007-07-21T22:23:00.000+00:00Ahh fanx! *blushes* What d'you wanna go an' say ...Ahh fanx! *blushes* What d'you wanna go an' say a fing like that for? You've made me go all girly! Talk to me like a man, damn it! Call me a "top bloke" or summat!<BR/><BR/>I still haven't got over the way "Robert Peel" was talking about chocolate brownies on my other blog...Mr Mans Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02794499533315461733noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33615081.post-784395340426919322007-07-21T20:16:00.000+00:002007-07-21T20:16:00.000+00:00Mrs Man, Will you go to bloody Norway already!!!Cr...Mrs Man,<BR/> Will you go to bloody Norway already!!!<BR/><BR/>CrustyBeef,<BR/> Great name, just kept chuckling.<BR/><BR/>Mslmgarner,<BR/> Now I am in no way taking the p*ss or being nasty or anything like that. However as Mrs Man will testify I do have an unusual taste in humour which normally serves me well & I don’t like to compromise my art, lovey. So anyway I would just like to point out your introduction. It made me smile. Not in a nasty way.<BR/><BR/>“I'm new hear my boyfriend is schizophrenic”. <BR/><BR/>I just couldn’t help picture your intro at a new place of work or at a party. Anyway hello!<BR/>Mrs Man will certainly be able to share a dilemma or 3 she’s lovely.<BR/><BR/>Cheers,<BR/> Granny.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33615081.post-28903513414338541882007-07-19T21:42:00.000+00:002007-07-19T21:42:00.000+00:00Hi there Mslmgarner, welcome to my blog and thank ...Hi there Mslmgarner, welcome to my blog and thank you for your questions.<BR/><BR/>Mr Man has been suffering from Schizophrenia since his teens but I didn't become aware of it until we had been married for nearly 5 years, which was 5 years ago. (we celebrate our 10th anniversary this year)<BR/><BR/>Mr Man doesn't really suffer "episodes" as such; his symptoms are more ongoing. There really is no short answer about how we cope with his symptoms so I will write a blog post about it.<BR/><BR/>Thanks again for your comments. I hope you are managing to find the information you need.Mr Mans Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02794499533315461733noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33615081.post-41405074488079056112007-07-19T15:42:00.000+00:002007-07-19T15:42:00.000+00:00I'm new hear my boyfriend is schizophrenic and I'v...I'm new hear my boyfriend is schizophrenic and I've just been all over talking to anyone who will talk back trying to understand how all this works SZ and all. <BR/>So I will ask you this question how long have you and Mr. Man been dealing with SZ?<BR/>and how do you deal his episodes in private and in publicAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33615081.post-85956440527252870562007-07-17T19:00:00.000+00:002007-07-17T19:00:00.000+00:00Hi there Crusty, I'm sure you've posted before; yo...Hi there Crusty, I'm sure you've posted before; your name seems familiar, but anyway - welcome!<BR/><BR/>I understand your point that we shouldn't expect others to understand, but somehow we have different expectations of our family members don't we? Especially when I've told them the same thing a million times before! You're right though; some people just aren't prepared to listen.Mr Mans Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02794499533315461733noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33615081.post-7376919300939971422007-07-17T18:07:00.000+00:002007-07-17T18:07:00.000+00:00I wish I knew, WOSH, I wish I knew.But you seem st...I wish I knew, WOSH, I wish I knew.<BR/>But you seem strong, and I'm sure as you so wonderfully put here how difficult it is..the one thing I would say is, you can't expect others to understand what you're going through. It's annoying, it's depressing and it hurts, but they just don't get it. I have similar "justdontgetumpeople" in my life, different situations, but still, and unfortunately what I've learned is that they never will learn to just listen to you.<BR/>Hang in there.<BR/>Always,<BR/>Crusty! <BR/>(i found your site via 4th avenue blues!)CRUSTY MOM-Ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16147045282174189951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33615081.post-9529993994699540992007-07-17T17:27:00.000+00:002007-07-17T17:27:00.000+00:00No need for apologies Catherine; I'm behind on my ...No need for apologies Catherine; I'm behind on my blog reading as well.<BR/><BR/>You raise some very valid points about education in my family. I started writing a comment to post here but it became quite long so I think I might make it into a blog post! (Again! That's what happened with my reply to Slurry!)<BR/><BR/>Thank you for your support Catherine and Slurry.Mr Mans Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02794499533315461733noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33615081.post-57201506939854202542007-07-17T14:08:00.000+00:002007-07-17T14:08:00.000+00:00I am so sorry that I have not commented before now...I am so sorry that I have not commented before now.<BR/><BR/>Maybe it is difficult for your family to understand the illness that Mr Man has? Maybe if you gave them some information about schizophrenia they would be more understanding? Or maybe you have already done this?<BR/><BR/>I am sorry that your family keeps pressuring you.Catherinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18012100875719616898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33615081.post-58601964233356236032007-07-15T21:27:00.000+00:002007-07-15T21:27:00.000+00:00Yes i have found the older generation think if you...Yes i have found the older generation think if you are out of hosp you are well and if your not, your in hosp, and back in the day those lines where defined but with care in the community its more a dotted line.<BR/><BR/>Yes fertility, is allways tough, I find it hard to have coversations about it also, but there is allways hope, thats what i hold on to, if not now then in the future.<BR/><BR/>Take care both of you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33615081.post-34714040300123045882007-07-15T16:53:00.000+00:002007-07-15T16:53:00.000+00:00No it doesn't at all. Thank you Slurry. You're r...No it doesn't at all. Thank you Slurry. You're right, it has to be when we are both well enough otherwise it would just cause a relapse for both of us.<BR/><BR/>My family seem so impatient for Mr Man to get back to "normal", and they always seem to think they have the solution to everything, but recovery really has to be at his own pace, as I know you are aware. For some reason people always seem to expect you to be either in hospital and really ill, or out of hospital and fully recovered. They don't seem to undertsand anything inbetween. It's so frustrating isn't it?<BR/><BR/>As for the fertility thing, I think I should write more about that another time. I know someone brought up the subject of children a long time ago in the comments section and I intended to write about it, but when I tried I found I wasn't quite as ready as I thought.Mr Mans Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02794499533315461733noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33615081.post-41627919088697211612007-07-15T13:50:00.000+00:002007-07-15T13:50:00.000+00:00I have often thought of the what ifs, and what cou...I have often thought of the what ifs, and what could have been ect, but i know I cant have changed the past and now live with the current and for the future what ever that holds.<BR/><BR/>I didnt find out about the fertility aspects of the meds till about 2yrs after i had been prescribed them, I wish they had told me, if just so i could have made a balanced decision, not been told when it might be to late, like everything else, they dont tell you about weight gain, how they damage your eyes ect.<BR/>When i first got ill there was alot of telling me to pull my socks up ect, if only it was as easy as that. most people have no real understanding of mental illness and i think relate it on recovery as getting over a cold, or never getting beter at all. <BR/><BR/>My family fail to see alltho I am not as unwell as i have been, I am also not as well as i could have been had I not had the illness.<BR/><BR/>Who knows one day you and MrMan might be well enough to go over to Norway, and you will enojy it all the more for having waited till there was doubt that you are both well enough. Sorry if that sounds patronising.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com